From the moment we found out we were expecting our first child, we both knew we would find out the sex. What can I say, we are both just too nosey and impatient to wait. I planned a baby shower around 36 weeks pregnant, and we chose then to reveal the sex to our close family only. Then the baby clothes started to arrive. Now, if you know me you'll know I have a love for pink.
It just so happens to be my favourite colour - that and it suits my colouring so I embrace it. Understandably then there were all the comments like 'Oh this poor baby will be head to toe in pink. I'll be honest those comments annoyed me. Greatly. So what if I chose to dress my baby girl in pink? And how does it concern anybody else. Does it really matter if I dressed her in pink? Would I receive the same comments if my favourite colour had happened to be yellow?
Does dressing my baby girl in pink mean I am not raising a feminist? Am I sending her a message that by wearing pink she needs to be some subservient female? I don't think so. Clothes are just that. They don't define you. My little girl wears pink. She also wears green, mustard's, navy, reds- you get the jist. Just because she has some pink outfits in her wardrobe it doesn't mean I am stereotyping her into a 'female' role. I don't expect nor want her to solely play with dolls or wear princess dresses; which if she wants she can but in fact she does neither. She prefers tractors, cars and playing outdoors in the muck. So I'm hazarding a guess that her pink start to life hasn't labelled her to much.
I want to raise a little feminist. My interpretation of that is that I want her, to know she has equal right to opportunities. I want her to know that her gender shouldn't be a issue. I want her to know that the way she dresses, the colour she chooses doesn't impact on her opportunities. Why would putting your baby girl in a pink dress be considered a rebellion against feminism? It's not; because it is just a dress. Simple as that.
I also have a little boy, who unfortunately for him, didn't get all new clothes and new toys. The perils of being the second child. He... and you better sit down for this.....wears pink. Yes he gets to wear all his big sister hand me downs. And not just in the house. We go out like that too. IMAGINE. He also plays with pink toys as well as his big sisters cars and building blocks (which just so happen to be green and blue and red and yellow).
Gender neutral clothing has really come on in recent years- now the aisles are filled with the usual pinks and blues, but with added pops of every colour of the rainbow. Babies aren't aware of this whole gender neutral debate. I mean they're just babies. Its us, as parents who choose to dress our children for those first formative months and years. If you so happen to be drawn to pinks or blues or greys or yellows - well so be it. Our job is to show our children every colour of the rainbow without preconceived notions attached to those colours. Children are like sponges, they absorb everything, our role as parents is to show them the world in all its colours and let them interpret it as they wish.
Children are great gender transgressors, they break the rules, they don't care if girls wear blue and boys play with dolls. They just do what they want, play with what they want and like what they want. Little girls in pink can be successful engineers just as little boys in blue can be successful nurses or fashion designers.. and vice versa.
So my advice, dress your child in pink or blue or whatever colour you want. Don't feel judged for dressing them in the typical 'gender assigned' colours, just as you shouldn't feel judged for not putting them in 'gender assigned' colours. Shaping their little minds to be tolerant, diverse and accepting is about so much more than the colour they wear.
And at that, I'm off to take my little girl dressed in pink wellies and navy leggings with a tractor t-shirt and my little boy in his blue Babygro and pink bib to play with their cousins...with cars, dolls, dollhouse and Lego. Breaking all the rules.
I'm Mary, mummy to two, wife to one. My blog is my little sanctuary or online diary to write about the things I have an interest in- years ago that would have been primarily makeup but with 2 children in tow my horizons have broadened a bit- it wont be all baby chat ( although I am partial to it) but more a little bit of everything about life with us.
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