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What Self Care Means To Me - Samara Prentice

What Self Care Means To Me - Samara Prentice

What Self Care Means To Me - Samara Prentice
Samara Prentice
Written by Samara Prentice on Wednesday, 03 July 2019 Posted in: What Self Care Means To Me

SELF CARE…two little buzz words coined by our media.   

What is “self care” anyway?  And what does it REALLY mean? 

Surely self care means something different to everybody, right?

For me, self care conjures up notions of entire days spent in the spa, being pampered and pruned from head to toe.  Ah, pure bliss...  

But that couldn’t be further from my current reality… 

What Self Care Means To Me - Samara Prentice

4 young children, 2 thriving businesses, a husband who works 60 plus hours every week and a never ending self build project puts paid to any proper “me time”.

That and GUILT.

Guilt, the most commonly used word in my vocabulary since becoming a mum.  A simple little 5 letter word, that stands between me and giving myself proper self care (and I’m not just talking entire days spent in the spa here).

I feel immense guilt for not spending enough quality time with each child, individually… 

Guilt for not being a super, duper, attentive wife to Paul…

Guilt for not having a perfectly kept home, in fact not having any sort of home right now…

Yet I feel no real guilt for not spending enough time on me!  

Why is it that we, as women, put so much pressure on ourselves? 

A long time ago, I foolishly resigned myself to that fact that if I want to “have it all”, I just had to be my last priority.  We live in such a fast paced society that I have no doubt that self care is at the bottom of most mummy’s priority list after homework’s and laundry and pick ups and the list goes on.  And on…

But “you can’t pour from an empty cup”, as the saying goes.

Isn’t it funny that I have built a successful business on encouraging women to truly invest in themselves yet here I am, openly admitting to the fact that I too am guilty (there’s that little word again) of putting everyone before myself.

My husband, on the other hand, would disagree.  “You’re very good to yourself” he often remarks.

Isn’t it funny how we are perceived so differently by others than we perceive ourselves? His notion of sell care is buying a new bag or a new lipstick. But each to their own.

I do take comfort in the fact that my friends also feel like they are constantly “hustling”.  We talk about who is the busiest or the tiredest, almost like it’s a competition. But at what point do we stop and re evaluate?  Do we let ourselves burn out?      

Interestingly, from I was asked to write this piece, I have spent a lot of time thinking about self care.  I’ve spent time asking clients about their views on it too. And I have come to this conclusion – a better ‘spin’ on self care is about doing things that make your busy life less complicated.

In a world where we, as women, are constantly evolving, it’s the simple things that provide me with a level of self care that fits well with my current lifestyle.  

It’s the weekly blow dry that I won’t apologise for... 

The daily skincare regime that’s been important to me since I was a teenager... 

An early morning coffee with my husband which sets me up for the day ahead.

A flick though a magazine in the bath, uninterrupted!

These little pleasures provide me with all the self care I need right now. These things are by no means extravagant but they make a big difference to my sanity. 

I’ve no doubt my time will come to enjoy those entire days spent in the spa, maybe I’ll even be able to make time for that break in the sun with the girls that we keep talking about (but know will not happen any time soon) but for now I am content with the simple things that lessen the daily grind.

Samara x

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